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Should I Get A Divorce?

Nov16
2009 Written by
Should I Get A Divorce?

Be honest – has this question crossed your mind recently? This EXACT question. Think carefully. If it has – it’s a tell tale sign that you are already thinking in terms of ‘you and them’.

“Should I Get A Divorce?” – you no longer see you and your partner as a unit, instead you see yourselves as two completely separate people who live together and share a surname.

“Should We Get A Divorce?” – you perhaps still see yourselves as a unit, but wonder if the best thing would be to break up that unit for good.

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Money Problems In Your Marriage? How To Tackle Them

Nov09
2009 Written by
Money Problems In Your Marriage? How To Tackle Them

In the current financial climate, many are struggling with their finances. The cost of living is rising, the number of jobs available is decreasing and money problems in marriage are more common than ever. If things aren’t going well, financial worries will only make things worse because it adds pressure to your relationship.

It could be that one of you makes more money than the other. When things are at a stretch, the other person may feel guilty or even inadequate because they aren’t contributing more. Some couples share their finances, both practically speaking and verbally speaking, others keep them separate and allocate their individual income for specific purposes such as bills, grocery shopping etc.

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Thinking of a Trial Separation? Some Advice and Things To Consider

Oct28
2009 Written by
Thinking of a Trial Separation? Some Advice and Things To Consider

When things get tough, your attention can of course turn towards ending the marriage completely. Before this point though, a lot of couples consider a trial separation. For a specific period of time, the couple will live separately. This can serve a number of purposes:-

-The couple has time apart to assess the marriage and their own feelings
-They can get a taste of what life will be like if they do ultimately decide to divorce
-Negative behavior and arguing will no longer occur in the marital home, this is particularly vital if there are children involved

For some couples, a trial separation can be a positive thing. In most cases, one or both parties will use the time to take a long, hard look at themselves and the marriage. This helps them to make the decision on whether they want the marriage to continue or not. For some people though, when the separation is over, things go back to exactly how they were before

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No Physical Intimacy – Contributing Factor or Symptom of Your Unhappy Marriage?

Oct23
2009 Written by
No Physical Intimacy – Contributing Factor or Symptom of Your Unhappy Marriage?

onder the question posed in the title of this article for a moment. Most unhappy marriages have one thing in common – there is little to no physical intimacy. To enjoy a happy and fulfilling sex life, you generally have to be happy and secure in your relationship.

Many people make the mistake of thinking just because they are human beings and sex is something that is a physical ‘need’, it will naturally happen regularly when they are in a long term relationship. Like your marriage itself, this department is something that needs to be nurtured and not neglected.

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Dealing With Infidelity

Sep15
2009 1 Comment Written by
Dealing With Infidelity

When we get married we all dream we’ll live happily ever after. Unfortunately, in the world we live in, relationships never go as planned, and when one of you goes astray, the fairytale comes to an abrupt end. However, just because you haven’t got the storybook ending you were hoping for, it doesn’t mean your relationship is over. Sometimes the relationship is worth saving, but only you can decide if that is an option for you. Take a long hard look at your relationship and see where things went wrong and if you feel you can eventually put it behind you and move forward. It may take a long long time for your relationship to recover, but it can be done.

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How Important Is Trust In a Marriage?

Sep10
2009 Leave a Comment Written by
How Important Is Trust In a Marriage?

Trust is one of the key factors of a successful and happy marriage. If it isn’t present, then you’re facing an uphill battle. It’s fair to say it’s the backbone of marriage. When you are sharing your life, your home, your dreams and your aspirations with somebody you should be able to have complete trust in them. You shouldn’t be worried about what they are thinking, where they are, who they are with etc etc.

Do you have complete trust in your spouse? If the answer is no, you need to figure out exactly why. Here’s some questions to ask yourself:-

Are they sometimes dishonest with you?
Have you been hurt or let down by others in the past?
Are you dishonest with them and fear reciprocation?
Do you spend a lot of time apart?
Do you make decisions together?

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How To Improve Communication In Your Marriage

Aug30
2009 1 Comment Written by
How To Improve Communication In Your Marriage

Imagine for a moment that you are having a conversation on the telephone. You hear someone through the receiver and talk through the mouth piece. It is give and take on both sides of the lines and we rarely talk over each other and we always make sure to listen carefully to what the other person is saying. The kind of give and take communication we have over the telephone should resemble the kind of conversations we have with our loved ones in person, particularly within our marriage.

Communication is the most important relationship skill one can have. So why is it we let ourselves get into such bad habits when it comes to communicating with one another? Why do we listen halfheartedly and give one word answers that leaves the other feeling we are not interested in what they have to say?

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Expectations – At The Heart of Success or Failure

Aug25
2009 Written by
Expectations – At The Heart of Success or Failure

hen we get married, we will generally have a whole list of things we expect from our partner. Some of us will discuss this ‘list’, but many of us don’t. We simply assume that because we are in love and have made the decision to spend the rest of our lives together, our expectations will be met. Unfortunately, life doesn’t usually work like this – and marriage certainly doesn’t. What are some common expectations both parties often have in a marriage?

-The other person will always be faithful
-They will discuss financial issues
-They will always be on the same page sexually
-They will share the same goals for the future
-They will always be honest and come to me with any problems or issues

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Should We Consider Marriage Counseling?

Aug15
2009 Written by
Should We Consider Marriage Counseling?

Many couples that encounter problems in their marriage decide to attend marriage counseling. A professionally trained counselor will encourage each couple to open up, discuss their situation and will offer impartial guidance and encouragement. He or she will make sure the couple each get an opportunity to express themselves and will attempt to ensure the communication between them is positive, constructive and effective.

Ideally, he or she will not need to offer any specific marriage advice. Their ultimate job is to enable the couple reach compromise and agreement about their future. This future may consist of them staying together, or calling it a day and going their separate ways.

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Are They Having an Affair?

Aug12
2009 Written by
Are They Having an Affair?

If you suspect your partner is being unfaithful, it’s vitally important that you get to the bottom of it ASAP. This doesn’t mean you should angrily confront them, no matter how tempting that may be. Before you even bring up the subject, you need to look at things as clearly and rationally as you can. [...]

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