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When we get married, we will generally have a whole list of things we expect from our partner. Some of us will discuss this ‘list’, but many of us don’t. We simply assume that because we are in love and have made the decision to spend the rest of our lives together, our expectations will be met. Unfortunately, life doesn’t usually work like this – and marriage certainly doesn’t. What are some common expectations both parties often have in a marriage?

-The other person will always be faithful
-They will discuss financial issues
-They will always be on the same page sexually
-They will share the same goals for the future
-They will always be honest and come to me with any problems or issues

Now, in my opinion it should be perfectly OK to have most of these expectations because a healthy marriage consists of these things in my eyes. When entering into such a committed relationship, of course you should be able to expect your partner to be faithful. Of course you should be able to expect them to discuss financial issues – you’ll most likely be sharing a house and maybe finances too. Of course you should be able to expect them to be able to come to you with any problems or issues they have – that’s the basis of any strong relationship.

In life, people evolve – and as time passes, their values and opinions are subject to change. Their goals might change. They might move to different paths. This is completely normal – we all do it. Whether we evolve in a positive or negative way is dependent on the individual. In a successful marriage, both partners will evolve and grow together, and as a result – the marriage itself will gain strength.

It’s so vitally important that you and your partner both know what is expected of each other. So many couples make the mistake of not discussing this crucial area. The only way you can find out what your partner’s expectations of you are is to communicate with them.

Maybe your husband expects a certain amount of effort put into the area of intimacy. Maybe your wife expects you to bring in a minimum amount of money into the household. Whatever these things may be – sit down, put them on the table and make sure you both know exactly where you stand. Ideally, this discussion will take place before you are married. But in a problematic marriage this one discussion could breathe new life into your relationship. Don’t make the mistake so many couples make by not expressing themselves.

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